Time is quite the concept. Termed in an effort to attach permanence to something that has none; time is the ever present plateau upon which experience occurs (you cannot have one without the other):
"Time moves forward whether you wish it to or not
To dwell on the past is to become a slave to it.
However to forget the past is to allow it to reoccur (of course never in the exact same way)"
-(Paraphrasing quotes I've heard over the years)
Time has taught me a lot in my 22 years, chiefly in the last year I have come to realize some universals that make life easier to live. Although it is a simple fact, I am truly intrigued by the fact that everyone has their own story. By this I refer to the fact that until somewhat recently, the people that I have come into my life have always been viewed as just that: "people who came into my life". Never did I stop to realize that in their mind pages are being filled in the story of their lives, where I am a secondary character at best. Martin Buber refers to the fact that we often objectify the people we interact with on a daily basis, offering small talk without genuine interest and without acknowledging them as people i.e. when you get on the bus and ask the bus driver how he is doing, do you REALLY expect him to say anything other than "I'm doing great, thank you for asking!" ...Didn't think so!
It's clear to me now that everyone is the main character of their own story, always the protagonist, never the bad guy.
(I could write a whole blog about how it is completely up to YOU the main character of YOUR story to decide whether your life is a comedy, horror, action-thriller, love story or romantic comedy like mine, however I shall resist for now )
The second realization is that nurture and and experience are the two biggest influences on a persons character (traits, likes, dislikes). These things equate perspective. If you're going to take one thing from this blog, let it be this: We must reserve judgement of others as people for the simple fact that we are unable to factor all the experiences that led them to doing the things that they have done.
A few personal examples of this?? (possible answers in brackets)
Have you ever been upset with someone driving slowly infront of you? (Maybe they are a lost. Maybe they are old/confused)
Have any guys out there dated a girl who's parents didn't love you?? (Maybe they are scared of sharing/trusting something they love and have invested their time in with a relative stranger)
Have you ever tried to get to know someone who wouldn't let their guard down? (Maybe they have experienced/witness people getting hurt and want to protect their feelings. Maybe they are scared because they know things could get serious.)
"Let him who would enjoy a good future waste none of his present." - Roger Babson
"If you don't have time to do it right, when will you have time to do it over?" -John Wooden
"How come you don't make time for me anymore?"
"It takes time to learn from mistakes"
"Time heals all wounds"
"Everything happens to everybody sooner or later if there is time enough." -George Bernard Shaw
"Waste your money and you're only out of money, waste your time and you've lost a part of your life."
-Michael LeBeoeuf
And Lastly,
"Time is what we want most, but what we use worst." -William Penn
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To the reader: Hope you enjoyed.. More blogs on the way, more frequently :)
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